“25 Jaw-Dropping Secrets Friends Uncovered About Each Other Years Later – You Won’t Believe #7!”
Ruined our friendship. Cutting her off was like losing a limb and it took me months to get through it. It’s been 14 years and it still hurts. I check on her through Instagram sometimes (her profile is public) but I have her blocked everywhere else.
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“If the secret is due to lack of trust, that could be an opportunity to further assess the nature of the friendship, the level of satisfaction in the friendship, and determine what, if any, next steps to take to address the issue,” Rebekah added.
#14
I knew my best friend for about 20 years before I found out that his sons were not actually his biological kids, his ex-wife cheated on him and both kids had different fathers, but he loves them and considers them HIS sons.
#15
She won a f*****g **GRAMMY** (like actually, literally) for music she worked on for a video game soundtrack. She didn’t even tell anyone, we only found out because her family made posts on facebook congratulating her and tagged her in it.
“I think a lot of secret-keeping is about shame,” Dr. Friendly pointed out. “Sometimes that shame comes from inside of ourselves, from the messages we were socialized into by our families, the media, and our culture.”
“Keeping those secrets isn’t necessarily a ‘bad sign,’ because it may not mean anything at all about the other person in the relationship. It may just take the person longer to overcome their own internal shame,” she explained. “But when the shame comes from within the relationship (e.g., the other person either directly shames you or is regularly judgmental about other people so that the message is received that this secret would be shameful), then there is probably something to be examined within that friendship.”
