56 Women Who Rejected Proposals — And Their Jaw-Dropping Reasons Will Change How You See Love Forever
….and we’ve now been married 18 years, have supported each other through thick and thin, and are raising two awesome kids.
The ONLY regret I have is that we ended up without a proposal story, as it was effectively negotiated over time. I did get on my knee and present a ring at a fancy dinner, but even then it was a ring we’d picked out together, as she was a jewelry smith
We had been together on and off for five years.
She kept coming back and telling me she couldn’t live without me, then get sick of me and drop me for a few months at a time.
(And make no mistake, I was a no-esteem whiner back then).
She knew I am the marrying type, but she could not commit. Finally, after I had moved into my own apartment away from roommates, she asked to move in. I basically countered with a marriage proposal, knowing in the back of my head she would likely say no.
That’s what happened, and we never got back together. 18 months later, I met the woman of my dreams and now we have been happily married for over 15 years.
Worked out just fine, thanks 🙂
I’ve had three or four nos depending on how you count.
First one was initially a yes. We’d had a mostly long distance romance and I proposed after a couple years, but we still hardly knew each other. After visiting her family, and spending time learning less flattering things about me, I think I became tarnished in her eyes and she broke it off.
Second one, I proposed once, she said yes, and then when she called her parents the next day they refused to recognize the engagement and pushed her to cut it off. I hadn’t met them.
Third time, same girl as second. We were engaged for a few months, even took our invite pictures. We were apart for 3 months before the wedding so I could complete a work project. During that time I had a crisis of conscience and felt like I needed a little more time. I asked her to push back the wedding, saying I loved her but I wasn’t quite ready. She simply called it off. Absolutely gutted me. And I’m sure it wrecked her too. I suspect her parents had some influence, but in the end I think it was probably for the best.
Fourth time, new girl, three years later. We’d been best friends who fell into dating. I’d gotten a new job and was leaving town and wanted to take her with me to kinda start grown-up life together. So I proposed marriage. It was too early in the relationship (5 months) and it was a bad decision. She had a missionary opportunity that she took and left town.
Fifth time I proposed, new girl in a new town. We’d been dating a year. She said yes, and we have 3 kids and 13 mostly great years together.
TL;DR Keep trying.
LATE EDIT: 4 kids now.
He (we were a gay couple) said no but I planned it that way. I’d been gone on a trip to Italy for a few months and had suspected he was cheating on me with his ex for awhile. While in Italy my best friend sent me pictures of them kissing at a bar.
The next day I bought the ring and flew back to the US. After I landed I proposed to him at the airport gate. He said no and I asked why not. He said it was too early. I showed him the picture of him and his ex and asked “You sure it isn’t because you’re a sack of trash?”, took the ring back, and he moved out two weeks later.
She said no, because she didn’t think we were ready yet. She was a Senior in College, I had graduated but hadn’t found a good job in my field.
After graduation, and her getting a professional job (And me getting a not quite so bad job)
We got married exactly 1 year later, on the Anniversary of the day she said no the first time.
19 years and 4 kids later, It’s going pretty well.
I proposed after dating my girlfriend for two years. I was about to graduate college and move away, and she was a year behind me.
I had the ring, everything perfectly planned, we discussed our future together. When I proposed, she initially said yes. About half an hour later, she seemed off. I asked her if anything was wrong, and she said she needed to think. We talked for awhile, and then she said changed her answer. She said we were too young, she wanted to be on her own for awhile, to be independent, etc…
Jokes on her though, because now we’re married.
Edit: ok, didn’t expect this much attention. To explain, yes, we are married to each other (and she does know). We stayed together afterward and another year later I proposed again, that time with a longer lasting success.
I just thought; if Turk from Scrubs, an incredibly immature, selfish guy can endure being rejected multiple times by the woman he loves, then I think I can at least maintain the same level of persistence in reality.
Edit2: For some added embarrassment, I proposed on day 2 of a 5 day trip we were on together. That, in retrospect, was poor planning. Trip was fun though!
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