“Is ‘Bed Rotting’ the Silent Relationship Killer You Didn’t See Coming?”
Ah, the cozy art of ‘bed rotting’—that oh-so-tempting practice of lounging under the covers for what feels like an eternity. If you’ve found yourself snuggled up with your partner, surrounded by an avalanche of pillows and binge-worthy shows, you might just be at risk of becoming the modern-day versions of the grandparents from Charlie and The Chocolate Factory. While indulging in this blissful state of horizontal relaxation can be a comforting escape, experts warn that too much of a good thing can lead to some unexpected relationship complications. So, what’s the fine line between cozy companionship and cuddly complacency? Dive into this exploration of the pitfalls of bed rotting, and discover how to keep your relationship vibrant without sacrificing those cozy moments! Check out the article to LEARN MORE.
If you and your bae are partial to a bit of ‘bed rotting’, you might want to reconsider your attempt to give the grandparents in Charlie and The Chocolate Factory a run for their money.
Being lay horizontally with the comfort of pillows, cushions and blankets is sheer bliss, we know – but like everything in life, you should enjoy it in moderation.
Experts say it’s bad enough if you’re an advocate for wasting the day in bed without any productivity for extended periods, but if you and your other half are doing it together, this could spell even more trouble.
For those who don’t know, ‘bed rotting’ is exactly what it sounds like – kicking back and relaxing under your duvet all day, endlessly scrolling or binge-watching TV.
On the one hand, this can be a great way to destress, wind down and recharge for the week ahead, especially when you want to get cosy and watch a film with your partner in the cold months.
Dr Lalitaa Suglani warned bed rotting together could cause your relationship to hit the rocks (Getty Stock Photos)
However, if you find your relationship is suddenly starting to revolve around bed rotting, you might want to find a new activity to partake in according to this psychologist.
Dr Lalitaa Suglani, who specialises in high-functioning anxiety, explained that you need to find a good balance between taking it easy with your loved one, while also being wary that your relationship doesn’t become boring.
The holistic healer and author told FruitySlots.com why people end up bed rotting, explaining: “We’re in a society that glorifies productivity, leaving people exhausted.
“This trend reflects a growing need for an escape and rest in an overstimulated world. It’s also where people are seeking refuge in simple, passive activities.”
However, she warned: “It can reduce levels of intimacy with your partner and without trying new things together – the couple could begin to feel ‘stuck’ and ‘bored’ in their relationship.
The psychologist said you or your other half might end up feeling ‘bored’ and could lose your romantic spark (Getty Stock Photos)
“For couples, ‘bed rotting‘ together can initially feel like quality downtime, offering a chance to bond in a relaxed setting. “
“However, if it becomes a habit, it risks creating complacency in the relationship.”
She said couples ‘thrive on variety’ as well as shared experiences and growth, but if you become ‘over-reliant’ on activities like bed rotting, it can cause ‘stagnation’ in your love life.
“It can eventually reduce the excitement and intimacy in a relationship,” the expert explained. “Shared adventures, trying new things, and socialising with others bring fresh energy to relationships.
“Without these, couples may feel stuck or bored, which can affect long-term connection and fulfilment.”
The psychologist recommends setting boundaries with your partner, which might include deciding on ‘specific times for bed rotting’ so that your calendar doesn’t end up completely booked up with it instead.
This way, it won’t become an unhealthy habit.
As well as this, Dr Suglani says setting small goals each day as well as creating a good routine of rest and activity can help you overcome your bed rotting phase, as you’ll realise seizing the day is a lot more exciting.