“Unlocking the Secrets: What Drives People to Betray Their Partners in Stealthy Affairs?”

Why do we find ourselves so captivated by the idea of affairs? Whether it’s the thrill of the forbidden or the curiosity about the unseen cracks in someone else’s relationship, there’s something undeniably magnetic about infidelity—like a car crash you just can’t look away from!

In fact, studies suggest that one in five people have dabbled in the world of cheating, but let’s be real: that number is probably much higher. It’s hardly the kind of thing you want to admit at a dinner party! While we love dissecting the reasons behind our neighbor’s indiscretions—thanks in part to relationship gurus and viral TikTok sages—truth be told, the motivations for cheating can be as complex as they are personal.

Now, enter psychotherapist Juliet Rosenfield, who claims in her new book Affairs that cheating might be ingrained in our very DNA. Yes, you heard that right! According to her, the foundation for most affairs is laid well before two lovers even cross paths, trapped in the echoes of childhood. So, if you’ve ever wondered what drives people to stray, you might just find that the answers delve back into their infancy!

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An expert has revealed the deep-rooted reasons why people cheat, and why the rest of us are so ‘fascinated’ by affairs.

It’s said that one in five people have had an affair in their lifetime but if we’re being honest the true figures are probably far higher. After all, it’s not something people easily admit to.

While it’s unlikely that you’ll ever be able to find out the true reason behind someone cheating, relationship experts and often TikTok stars who want to go viral by offering advice have long been searching for the answer.

The list of signs to show that your partner is cheating seemingly grows every single day, with some even suggesting someone’s job could be a warning sign they could be unfaithful.

But if you ask me, usually these problems stem from a lack of communication and trust. Either that or you’re just dating a d**k.

Now fortunately I don’t speak from any experience on this topic, but it’s perfectly understandable why someone who has been cheated on would want to know why, especially if it’s a stupid reason so you can forget about them and move on.

However, it might not be as easy to blame someone for their affair if you believe psychotherapist Juliet Rosenfield, who in her new book Affairs reveals that it could simply be part of our DNA.

“For many people, affairs are as hardwired in their DNA as fidelity,” writes Rosenfeld in the book. “What’s rarely understood is that the roots of most affairs are there decades before two people meet. Yes, decades.

“The reasons are locked in our infancy and childhood. That is, in the past not the present.”

Why do people cheat? (Getty Stock Photo)

She adds: “Seeing otherwise sensible people misbehave is one of the reasons why affairs are so fascinating to onlookers. Especially when sex is involved.

“These stories remind us of our own potential to do things we shouldn’t. Who has not fantasised about sex with someone who is not a partner?”

She concludes: “I cannot emphasise enough that the central motivations for affairs relate to our own infantile, forgotten selves.

Affairs are linked to our ‘infantile’ selves (Getty Stock Image)

“Without adequate caregiving and interest early on, we try to seek emotional and physical reassurance and stimulation in a myriad ways throughout life. Having an affair is one way.”

Juliet’s book, which was released this year after five years of writing, tells the story of five different people’s affairs.

It must be noted that if you cheat on your partner and tell them that your DNA is to blame, they’ll probably start throwing things.