“After 16 Years of Silence, Why Is Her Ex Furious About a Baby She Never Had?”
“I would never shame someone for choosing abortion or to raise the child. Those are valid and brave options. So long as it is respecting their own lives and not bringing a child into the world to suffer or be mistreated, then it should be the mother’s decision. Unless the father is involved, then it’s a joint decision.”
According to the author, honesty is the key to maintaining proper boundaries with one’s child and adoptive parents. “My bio-child was 13 when we talked about me being his biological mother. He had some hard questions and I never lied. I told him I wasn’t ready to be his mother and I couldn’t give him the love and care he deserved. But I know people who already loved him even before birth. Those were the people meant to be his parents.”
She added that “people need to stop forcing their ideals on young mothers-to-be, especially teens who get accidentally pregnant.”
The author continued: “They need support, not judgmental comments. With the right support and guidance, they can push forward in life. I finished college and I have a professional life despite finishing high school in home school because I was pregnant.”
You cannot abandon someone, ignore them for years, and then suddenly have a change of heart without ringing alarm bells
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Most often, life doesn’t turn out like in the movies. The challenges you face are far more complicated and there usually aren’t neat resolutions. But in some cases, you’ll find that there are kind, caring, and supportive people around you who are willing to lend a helping hand when you need it the most.
This is what happened in the viral story author’s case. She shared how her parents and their family friends came together to make the adoption process as smooth and pain-free as possible. They also allowed the woman to remain in her birth child’s life as a ‘special aunt.’ So, she was able to develop a relationship of sorts with her son throughout the years, while also being mindful not to overstep any boundaries.
Unfortunately, not everyone is mindful of other people’s boundaries. Case in point, the author’s ex began guilt-tripping her for giving up their child for adoption, even though he was the one who left her to fend for herself when pregnant.
He had 16 years to show any interest in the woman and child’s welfare, but he only spoke up when he accidentally ran into her. Overall, this shows that he likely isn’t genuine about wanting to be a father. He might potentially be playing the situation up for attention or to look like the victim for other purposes.
The cherry on top is that the man called out his ex for giving up the child for adoption on social media. However, he didn’t quite get the reaction he was hoping for. While some folks stood up for him, many other people in his social circle were quick to point out that he was in no position to say anything, as he made the decision to abandon his pregnant girlfriend.
What are your thoughts about the entire situation, dear Pandas? Do you think the woman handled everything the right way or would you have done anything differently if you were in her shoes? Do you know anyone who has been adopted or has adopted a child? How would you react if an ex suddenly started forcing their way back into your life?
As the story went viral, the author went into more detail about the context of her sensitive situation
The vast majority of people who read the tale came out in support of the woman
Not everyone understood the context the same way. Here’s their overly judgmental take
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