“Confessions of Childhood: 72 Women Reveal the Most Heartbreaking Lessons From Their Fathers’ Mistakes”
Also, he would tell me off and call me names for showing emotions other than neutrality or happiness (but not too much happiness). When I was about 7 or 8, I cried watching “All dogs go to heaven”, and he called me a “stupid f*****g c**t” for crying over a cartoon. Now I’m 28, with a monotone voice that I can’t get rid of without putting a hell of a lot of effort in. I really struggle any time I get gifts, because I know my face and voice often don’t show how grateful and excited I am. I also have anger issues, because I was never taught how to deal with frustration and anger, I was just made to bottle it up instead.
Being *too* overprotective. It has the opposite effect. Your daughter will be so scared of your overreaction that if something actually happens, she’ll be hesitant to tell you.
Being absent in younger teen years. My dad worked hard for us so I don’t begrudge the roof over my head nor the food in my belly. BUT he missed out on so many special events, first dance, band performances, special events etc because he was working. He didn’t see how my mother treated me and my siblings. He didn’t see the harm she was inflicting on us and herself with her drinking. I felt like I couldn’t talk to him. As an adult we have a much better relationship but I’m still sad he wasn’t more present in my early life.
Not trying to understand or communicate with them. I was the only girl in my friends group that had a father she could hold a conversation with. Most of my girlfriends had fathers who were toxic or not involved. They never talked about feelings or thoughts. It was sad. My father and I talked about all kinds of things and he taught me about everything. I could ask him anything. He took the time.
Telling women to be more patient and tolerant of the men in their lives because they “don’t know any better” and that it’s the woman’s job to keep the household together.
This came from my single mom and she has a son and a daughter who are both adults. Guess who still cooks, cleans, and does the laundry for their son while the daughter does that for herself in the same household?
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