“Desperate Blame Game Goes Awry: Husband’s DUI Cover-Up Lands Him Behind Bars!”
Not all people are capable of admitting their wrongdoings, which can be quite a red flag in relationships
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This husband, for example, instead of taking accountability for his drunk driving, tried blaming it on his wife
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Dread of failure, fright of being judged, and anxiety about consequences can push people to avoid accountability
We all make mistakes now and again but why is it so hard to admit them? One primary reason for this is fear. Dread of failure, fright of being judged, anxiety about consequences—these all can contribute to the apprehension of accepting responsibility.
When we do something wrong, our innate instinct is to protect ourselves from negative outcomes. That’s why some people might deny, deflect, or even lie about their misdeeds. The idea of making a mistake can be so frightening to some individuals that they go to great lengths to avoid it.
Another thing that plays a big part in this is our ego. Accepting responsibility requires us to admit that we aren’t perfect, which can be tough to acknowledge for many. Our sense of self-worth protects our self-image and self-esteem and admitting faults can feel like a hit to our identity. Being unable to overstep this psychological barrier is often why some people can’t hold themselves accountable.
Such behavior can also stem from past traumas like abuse, criticism, betrayal, rejection, neglect, blame, punishment, or gaslighting. Without even realizing it, people who have gone through these things may find themselves responding in the same ways they were treated. Over time, it becomes a coping mechanism used to instinctively survive, especially when they do something wrong.
