Friend’s Wedding Fallout: The Shocking Voicemail That Exposed a Deeper Betrayal
This was the root of the drama between these two longtime friends
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However, the friend began to get flaky
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She didn’t show up for the day itself, urging the bride to begin cutting ties
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Instead of apologizing, the friend responded with a weird and insulting message
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Flakiness is “self-handicapping behavior”
Being suddenly ditched by someone who said yes to you can sting. It shows a blatant disrespect for your time, and in the story’s case, for the bride’s plans and expenses. That leaves the person questioning why, and especially whether the person who flaked out is a good friend.
According to psychotherapist and author Dr. Steven Berglas, one reason is the flaker’s poor time management skills, compounded by their belief that they can handle everything.
“A lot of people overestimate their abilities. They overburden themselves and don’t leave time to be prepared for critical tasks, so they fail. It’s self-handicapping behavior,” Dr. Berglas explained.
For clinical psychologist Dr. Andrea Bonior, the fear of conflict may also be a reason why many people no-show their commitments or give a last-minute excuse as to why they are not showing up. That act of avoiding potential disputes may urge a person to say yes, even if they cannot guarantee their attendance.
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