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There are several reasons someone might cheat on their partner
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When this guy’s girlfriend decided to hook up with someone else to see if she still “had it,” he immediately showed her the door
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The guy feels a tinge of guilt for sticking to his boundaries, and an expert explains why
Bored Panda asked psychotherapist and best-selling author Anna Mathur to unpack what guilt is, why we feel it, and how to deal with it. She began by telling us that guilt is a prompt that we’ve behaved or acted in a way that doesn’t align with our values somehow.
“Misplaced guilt is the feeling of guilt that comes when you’ve not actually done anything wrong,” explains Mathur. “This is often rooted in people-pleasing or perfectionism – such as holding a healthy boundary, and feeling guilty because someone is finding it hard to accept.” As in the case of the guy who is being pressured to take back his cheating girlfriend.
The expert advises people to acknowledge and name the guilt. For example, if you feel bad for upsetting a friend, “Consider whether you did anything wrong that you need to apologise or take responsibility for. ‘I was really blunt with her because I was tired, so I should probably explain that I wasn’t actually annoyed with her.’ Once you have acted upon that step, you can let the guilt go,” Mathur told Bored Panda, stressing that guilt is there to prompt you to act or take responsibility where needed, not make you feel like a bad person.
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