“From Betrayal to Backlash: The Shocking Truth Behind One Woman’s Infidelity Confession”
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There are pros and cons to forgiving a cheater
When researchers examined data collected over a 50-year period, they found that roughly 1 in 5 people cheat. And psychologists say there are several reasons someone might decide to be unfaithful. The main ones being anger, low self-esteem, lack of love, low commitment, need for variety, neglect, sexual desire, and situation or circumstance. In the case of the guy left blindsided, it appears his girlfriend’s low self-esteem played a part.
People who have low self-worth might choose to seek validation outside of their relationship because it makes them feel more wanted – and better about themselves. But as Brides.com reports, “while taking the unfaithful route might give them a temporary boost of self-confidence, in the long-term, cheating exacerbates low feelings about oneself.” So it’s a vicious cycle.
Whether you stay with a cheating partner or end the relationship, you’ll still have to decide if you’re willing to forgive them or not. Experts say there are pros and cons to forgiving a cheater. On the upside, forgiveness frees you from resentment and pain, working things out might bring you closer together, and the process of forgiveness can help couples reconnect with each other.
“Choosing forgiveness can lead to personal growth and introspection. It allows you to confront your emotions, work through them, and develop a deeper understanding of yourself,” notes Marriage.com. “Then again, the periods accompanying a cheating incident will also help you understand your triggers and identify loopholes in your relationship.”
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