From Struggle to Luxury: What It’s Really Like Loving Someone Who Hit the Jackpot Overnight
There have been times along the way where he has been obsessive with working, difficult to live with and not very emotionally present. But now that we have “made it” and I think that external (and internal) pressure has lifted- he is back to being “him”. The guy I fell in love with and would see reappear on holidays 😅
Our relationship is wonderful and it’s been such an amazing journey building the life of our dreams and raising our little family together! Some bumps and tough spots along the way, with a whole ton of sacrifices…. But delayed gratification and being dedicated to making our marriage do the distance has proven to be a working combination for us!
My partner inherited hundreds of thousands when her father passed away so she quit her job and lived off it for many years while I worked full time. We have separate finances and her inheritance is hers- it wasn’t a free gift, she lost a parent at a very young age. I held some resentment at the imbalance but she did most of the house chores which bought me a lot of free time outside of work.
Now-husband got a $110k payout after a work accident. We were 20 and had been dating a few years. He got me an engagement ring, put the rest in high-interest for a few years and then we used it for a house deposit.
The work accident itself happened when we’d only been together a few months but it really was a make-or-break for our relationship.When he got the payout we viewed it as money to build our future and sort of communal.
When we retire we’ll 100% be living off my savings so it’s sort of all balancing out in the end.
Married my high school sweetheart at 23, both of us from a poor background. He got a job in the oilfield and within 2 years, started making checks we had never imagined. We bought a house, filled it with furniture and all the things we had ever dreamed about owning.
Divorced at 29 after he became emotionally a*****e and incredibly mean. Literally moved me back to my hometown and started dating his younger insubordinate. It’s been over a decade since and I’m married to a wonderful man while he bounces from relationship to relationship with nothing but his bank account to keep him warm.
Met my wife when I was 20. We were poor students, she in a bit better situation, but still sharing burgers and beer. She was going faster through career while I was struggling. I really had my lows at some point.
But, we went out of it and we both earn a lot now, not millionaires but more than we ever needed.
Nothing changed between us, happily married after 15+ years.
My learning from my life with her: you need someone who will constantly push and support you to be the best version of yourself.
When I started dating my high school sweetheart I was broke. I had to take two buses to go on a date with her, and choose dinner based on the price column. Her parents were well off and were nice to me although I know they wished she dated a doctor (like she was studying to be one).
We’ve been together 25 years. She was with me through my university, multiple dead end jobs, and even supported me when I decided to quit my average paying job to have start a company without a salary. She then saw my startup slowly going bankrupt while she was doing two or three night shifts – and still didn’t complain.
I earned a tenured government position through Brazil’s public exam system, which is a big deal here. And then decided to turn it down to work under a 21 year old who wanted to pay me in made up coins. She still supported me.
Turns out, I made the right decision and it turned out great.
Never for a minute I would not consider that a shared success. She earned every penny I ever made because I don’t think I would be able to do what I’ve done without her support for all these years. .
Got financially abused. I had to pay for groceries, electrical and water bills and on top of that half of his mortgage. I was pushed into giving him money when he wanted to play the pokies, when he wanted to do dr*gs and when his friends wanted money too – yet I still got cheated on even though I was benefiting him in every way living together, including upkeep on daily chores of the apartment, laundry, cleaning and dinner was ready every night when he finished work for him. Oh but I paid for all the furniture and left him with an empty place when I moved out, so jokes on him 🫣.
I made a ton of money off of bitcoin and eth, and still hold most of it. It basically ruined my life, I lost my friends as they invested and did not hold or wait, as soon as they lost money they sold and blamed me. My wife at the time had huge resentment that i would not sell all of it, bitcoin was 40k at this time, I paid all her school and credit card debt, bought her an SUV and it still was not enough. We started a long divorce, my friends who lost money rallied around her, and the orbiting friends fell into place. I lost all I had except money but actually i lost a good deal of that too,
I got a gf, she too is mad Im holding btc, despite the fact I am not broke or employed and i provide a lot for her, nearly every day. I don’t talk about crypto it all the time, I’m not an annoying crypto bro, I do not have a huge high paying job, I sell small amounts and buy nice things, it truly sucks, I thought being rich would solve most if not all my problems, it did not, it made them worse.
