From Struggle to Luxury: What It’s Really Like Loving Someone Who Hit the Jackpot Overnight
Honestly? The biggest change was just a massive, collective sigh of relief. We paid off our student loans, our parents’ mortgages, and took our first real vacation in ten years. The first “rich person” thing he did was buy a ridiculously expensive, custom-built gaming PC just to play Stardew Valley in 4K. Man’s got his priorities straight. We still argue about whose turn it is to do the dishes, the sink is just in a much nicer kitchen now.
She always had a high paying career and we saved aggressively.
The power of compounding intrest is wonderful.
Not much has changed.
I got fairly wealthy after about year 8 of being together. Nothing changed really aside from me now buying fancy purses and the home for our future kiddos! My fiance still chooses to live like the poor college kid I fell in love with though. So basically only things around us changed.
When we met, I was making good money and he was barely making anything. He was just surviving with nothing left after wages and didn’t have a proper job but was job hunting. I supported both of us all this time. I work 14-16 hours a day.
Now over time he is earning well. I’m around the same income range. Working the same hours. And now I’m told all I do is make money and have no other value around the house. Times change. Circumstances change. And people change too I guess.
I haven’t been but my friend inherited a lot of money in her last relationship. at first she didn’t tell anyone because she didn’t want people to look at her differently, but after talking to her mom she decided to tell her boyfriend. they had been dating for 6 years but he didn’t want to make the leap for commitment so anytime they talked about marriage it was in the future sometime! and anytime they talk about moving in together it was coming soon! just after he finishes this one project.
anyway you can guess where this story goes. he took ownership over the money, they started getting in lots of fights because she wouldn’t spend it how he wanted to, suddenly he was totally fine with living together especially if it meant he didn’t have to have a job… broke her heart. she hasn’t dated since, but she’s rich as f**k.
Idk if “very rich”, but way above average. We live very comfortably and manage to still save money every month on a single income in a big apartment with a garden in the most fashionable neighborhood of our country. He’s been supporting me through unemployment, but at times when I do have a job (unstable industry) I’ve made more than him.
We’re a team, best friends. Getting married in October.
Money makes life easier, and more fun. It doesn’t solve an individuals problem. Met my wife when we were both broke, early on she told me she’s betting on me making it big because she believed in. She was right, and it was a wonderful ride, until it made her complacent in life. We lived the 1% lifestyle in the most expensive city in the US. Home ownership, 2nd home, kid in private school, luxurious vacations, etc.
She became depressed ~4 yrs ago and didn’t seek the right help because she thought we had enough money for her to sit and do nothing all day. That was never our agreement, I loved the ambitious woman she was, couldn’t care less about her success but loved that she tried and cared and tried to be the best human she could.
When she stopped all of that, I started to resent her. Warned her after 3 yrs of this, I’m at the end of my rope if she didn’t try to recover from the dark hole she’s in. Finally hit my breaking point and told her she needs to check into a rehab facility to work on her demons, or I want out. She chose the easy path out, we’re in the process of getting divorced.
TLDR- making a lot when you come from nothing is amazing, and best shared, as long as you continue to share the same values.
We were poor for a long time about 8 years (he refused to work and argued he was better than working for someone else). So did as many jobs as possible cause I believed he could accomplish something great. We then decided to start a business together but he kept me off all the paper work.
In about a year or two he was making bank from the company that we both worked on. He didn’t have me as an employee and wasn’t paying me so I had to get a second job. Found out later he was cheating on me. I divorced him and since he didn’t add me to any business documents I couldn’t claim any of the business as mine. During the divorce found out he was paying himself over 50k a month. Money tends to make s****y people reveal themselves. Now I’m starting all over again cause I never focused on my career, I focused on keeping us alive. It sucks and is hard. .
