Mother’s Shocking Threat to Call CPS on Daughter Reveals Dark Family Secrets
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“It’s not selfish to protect yourself”
Viperbunny says this decision was very difficult, and it made her feel incredibly guilty all the time. “I felt guilty that my kids wouldn’t have my family. They all sided with my parents. I felt like an awful daughter. I was worried about being a bad mother,” she noted.
But she stuck with therapy. “I learned how to reprogram my brain. I had to gain confidence in myself, something I had never been allowed to do. I went from being told I was ‘too nervous’ to drive, to being someone who drives my kids all around,” she shared. “I have a community of friends who are like family. It took time, but I eventually started really living me life in a way I never had.”
Even today though, the author says she receives messages from her mom through her husband. “He didn’t change his number, so she sends stuff to him. She does everything from beg to threaten, but we never reply back. Given that she has not sought therapy for herself, and the crazy things I hear about them, she hasn’t changed and, therefore, is never going to be safe to be around.”
Next, we asked the author what she thought of the replies to her post. “It helped to know I wasn’t the first or only person to have this problem,” she noted. “It allowed me to know I wasn’t being crazy, mean or spiteful when I cut contact. It was healing and validating to know that others had been there and that I could survive that.”
“It was also important to document everything that was happening, so I had proof of everything my parents were doing, not just for the police, but for myself,” Viperbunny continued. “It showed that they were the ones acting aggressively and that I was right to stay away. I also got cameras for my doors, and that helped a lot.”
Finally, the author added that going no-contact doesn’t mean that a person stops caring. “I do care. I miss having a family. The only thing worse than not having my family in my life would be to have my family in my life,” she shared.
“There is healing after ab*se. It’s not easy, and it’s not linear. It takes time! It took me years to process and heal, but I am living a much better life,” Viperbunny told Bored Panda. “I do feel bad when I hear my family is struggling. I do laugh sometimes because, the situation they are in, I don’t think soap opera writers could have written.”
The mom also says she forgives her parents in the sense that she knows they aren’t capable of doing better. “I couldn’t get them to change when I was in their lives, and they haven’t changed since I left. I couldn’t fix a problem that I wasn’t responsible for creating in the first place,” she shared. “Boundaries are an important part of healthy relationships, and if the people in your life don’t respect boundaries, it is a huge red flag.”
“It’s not selfish to protect yourself. And if you have kids, they deserve to be protected,” Viperbunny added. “My kids are healthy, happy and thriving. It is so sad I can’t share them with my family because they are incredible. I chose being their mom over everything else, and it saved me. My world is better just because they exist. It wasn’t their job, but loving them made me a stronger, better person.”
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