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“Having a clear and respectful conversation before any major expense—especially a vacation—can save a lot of stress later. Surprises around finances can create unnecessary tension, and getting on the same page early ensures a more enjoyable experience for everyone,” explained Melissa Murphy Pavone, CFP, CDFA of Money Matters In Marriage, LLC.
Starting the money talk may be nerve-wracking so we asked experts for some advice on how couples can approach this conversation. Pavone suggested picking the right time and setting and being specific with each other’s expectations. “Choose a neutral, low-stress moment to discuss vacation plans and finances. Talk about the overall budget, who will cover what, and whether certain costs (e.g., flights, hotels, meals, excursions) will be split or handled differently.”
She also recommends discussing individual priorities and being open to compromise. “Each person might value different aspects of the trip, such as staying in a luxury hotel versus saving for activities. Talking through these preferences helps align expectations. It’s okay if both partners initially have different ideas. The goal is to find a solution that feels fair and reasonable to both.”
“If one partner changes their mind about covering the full cost, it’s important to communicate that as early as possible”
When couples finances aren’t equal, splitting vacation costs may be a little more complicated. “There isn’t a “right” answer here, but proportionality often makes sense for couples with a significant income disparity. For example, if one partner earns 70% of the household income and the other earns 30%, a proportional split of trip expenses may feel fair,” explained Pavone.
