Shock Verdict: Man Triumphs in Groundbreaking Domestic Violence Case Against Ex-Girlfriend Who Left Him Hospitalized
Ever heard the phrase “don’t throw tea if you can’t handle the heat”? Well, Paul Jordan learned it the hard way—literally. This American guy, living it up in France and working on some crazy nuclear fusion project, ended up in the hospital after his ex tossed boiling-hot tea at him. Yup, a steaming cup of drama that led to serious burns and an even more serious court case. But here’s the kicker: despite the labyrinth of biases and legal hoops designed more for female victims, Paul actually won a landmark domestic abuse case against his ex-girlfriend. Talk about flipping the script on the classic “he said, she said” story! His journey sheds light on the uphill battle male victims face in a world that’s often skeptical—and that’s something we don’t talk about nearly enough. Curious how Paul persevered through skepticism, social stigma, and a very 21st-century legal system? Well, buckle up—you’ll want to LEARN MORE.
An American man living in France has won a groundbreaking domestic ab*se case against his ex-girlfriend. Paul Jordan took his former partner to court after she threw boiling-hot tea on him, resulting in hospitalization for severe burns.
Despite systemic hurdles stemming from the gendered nature of domestic abuse laws and resources in France, Jordan received justice when judges handed his ex a four-month suspended jail sentence and thousands of Euros in fines and restitution.
Speaking exclusively to Bored Panda, the chemist and researcher highlighted the obstacles men face in domestic abuse situations and gave advice for future victims.
Paul Jordan was scalded by his ex-girlfriend while they were living together in France
Image credits: Paul Jordan
In August 2023, Paul Jordan was living in Mirabeau with his partner and her 11-year-old son while he worked at ITER, a massive international research facility devoted to nuclear fusion technology.
After breaking up, they agreed to have a discussion the next day about moving forward, specifically regarding rent since they were sharing the residence.
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The discussion grew heated after Paul suggested his ex pay her half of the rent, which he claims she had previously agreed to. He extracted himself from the situation by retreating to his office, but as he went to shut the door, she threw her cup of freshly brewed tea at his head.
The scalding water also splashed down onto his chest, resulting in second degree burns across eight percent of his body, including his face.
Image credits: Paul Jordan
In the hospital covered in bandages for his burns, the American scientist faced a dilemma. Should he go to the police?
For any survivor of domestic abuse, approaching the authorities can seem daunting, but for a man, things can be especially complicated. He was acutely aware that many male survivors are not only disbelieved, but they face a gendered system that automatically classifies men as perpetrators and women as victims.
“If I call the police now, she will continue the lie,” Paul explained, revealing his thoughts at the time. “Her French is better than mine, she could convince them I hit her first or even involve her son, I don’t know what she is capable of.”
After the attack Paul faced a journey of systemic obstacles in his quest for justice
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These fears are common. A study in The Journal of Interpersonal Violence found that male victims were reluctant to go to the authorities “due to the negative expectations of being ridiculed by the police, not being believed, and fear of being arrested.”
Those who did “reported unfriendly and antagonistic police treatment and the police’s reluctance to charge abusive female partners.”
This continued through the legal process with “legal and administrative abuse by female partners, including false accusations and manipulations of child custody, and a general bias against men in the courtroom.”
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Paul had a similar experience. The officers were notably confused when he made his report. They seemed uncertain of the proper procedure, and when he was provided a state-appointed social worker, she confided that they “literally didn’t know what to do with a male victim.”
When he finally went to trial, his translator had problems at first because she assumed he was the perpetrator rather than the victim.
The Texas native’s problems were compounded by the French legal system. Instead of a public prosecutor handling his case, he was forced to pay out-of-pocket for his own attorney to bring charges against his ex.
Image credits: Paul Jordan
In the meantime, social stereotypes and biases against men wreaked havoc on his personal life.
Generally, police require the man to leave the residence when there are pending domestic violence charges, but no such procedure exists when the alleged aggressor is a woman.
On top of that, Paul’s ex sent a defamatory letter to his landlord alleging he was living in the residence illegally. As a result, he had to justify himself to the police by providing the lease and explaining he had not signed the letter in question.
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