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The expert says you’re also not bound by strict venue rules. “Want to bring your dog? Go for it. Want to party until 2 a.m.? Why not!”
On the other hand, there are some cons that come along with a venue like this. “It’s a logistical beast. If the place isn’t wedding-ready, you’ll need to rent everything from toilets to twinkle lights,” Jhona noted.
Plus, you’ll be on clean-up duty. “Someone’s got to haul those trash bags at midnight, and spoiler alert: it’s probably you.”
And of course, there might be some family drama. “Aunt Mary might suddenly have opinions about your centerpieces since it’s her garden,” Jhona noted. “Using a family or friend’s venue can be magical, but it’s not without its hiccups. Proceed with caution—and maybe a solid plan B.”
“Your wedding should reflect you as a couple—not be a political battleground over who gets a plus-one”
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“In our real wedding coverage, we’ve chatted with countless brides and grooms who chose to tie the knot at their own home or a family member’s (or friend’s) place,” the expert shared. “Check out Bethany and Ardie’s intimate wedding at home, for example.”
But Jhona says that the bride and groom still have every right to make all of the decisions when it comes to their big day. “It’s your wedding, your rules,” she told Bored Panda. “Just because you’re not footing the venue bill doesn’t mean you’ve handed over the reins to the guest list. Think of it like borrowing someone’s Netflix account—you get to watch what you want, not what they suggest.”
“That said, you might have to navigate a few awkward conversations if the family feels entitled to an invite list veto,” the expert added. “The trick is to stand your ground without causing WWIII. Be polite but firm: ‘We love you, but this is our decision.’ If they push back? Play the ‘this is our special day’ card—it’s undefeated. If you’re having more issues with your guest list – you should check out our post with tips for creating and managing your wedding guest list.”
Finally, we asked Jhona what advice she would give the couple in this situation. “Here’s the deal: if the pressure from your sister-in-law feels like too much drama, ditch the venue and start fresh somewhere else,” she shared. “Sure, it might cost more, but can you really put a price on your sanity?”
“If switching venues isn’t an option, then it’s time to channel your inner Beyoncé and set some boundaries,” the wedding expert continued. “Politely but firmly let the SIL know that the guest list is off-limits. If she can’t handle it, well, that’s a her problem, not yours.”
“At the end of the day, your wedding should reflect you as a couple—not be a political battleground over who gets a plus-one,” Jhona noted. “So whether you set boundaries or book a new spot entirely, do what feels right for you. And remember, the guest list won’t matter when you’re eating cake and dancing the night away.”
Later, the bride responded to several readers and provided even more information about her situation
Readers assured the bride that she had done nothing wrong and many recommended finding a new venue
Some also shared advice for the couple to make sure that their wedding is still all about them
A few days later the author came back with an update
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