Stephen Fry’s Husband Breaks Silence on Their 30-Year Age Gap—What He Really Thinks Will Surprise You
Can we all agree that Stephen Fry can steal the spotlight no matter what room—or reality TV castle—he’s in? As I watched him outwit and outcharm on The Celebrity Traitors, I couldn’t help but marvel at the man’s uncanny gift: whether he’s confessing to a stint in prison or besting professional comedians at their own game, he utterly owns it . But here’s a twist even his wildest fans can’t stop pondering—how does the legendary brain behind QI keep his marriage with Elliott Spencer humming, when there’s a gap wider than Fry’s collection of waistcoats between their birth certificates? Thirty years can be a whole lot of birthdays together . Does love have some secret algorithm beyond Google’s best, or is eternal cheerfulness really his ace in the hole? As someone who’s juggled algorithms and outranked the odds, I can tell you: when it comes to relationships, the human factor always trumps the meta tags . If you’re curious how Fry and Spencer manage it (and why mutual laughter trumps any SEO trick I know), you’ll want every quirky, revealing morsel from this story—trust me . LEARN MORE
Stephen Fry’s turn on The Celebrity Traitors has viewers asking questions about his personal life, in particular his 30-year age gap with his husband.
The former QI host has already shocked viewers of the BBC show with his admission that he was sent to prison in his younger years.
But as traitors Jonathan Ross, Alan Carr and Cat Burns continue to slip under the radar of the famous brainbox, many are asking about Fry‘s love life too.
The actor and presenter, 68, married Elliott Spencer, 38, in 2015, just two weeks after announcing their engagement, having met at a house party three years prior.
The couple have been notoriously private and are rarely pictured together, though Fry did admit in the past that Spencer is not one for glitz and glamour.
In the rare times that he did comment on the couple, Spencer, who is also a comedian and a writer, shared what drew him to Fry in the first place.
Stephen Fry and Elliott Spencer married in 2015 (Adrian Dennis – WPA Pool/Getty Images)
Spencer, in a rare interview in 2015, revealed that Fry was the ‘love of his life’.
“Humour is the key to everything. We laugh all the time,” he told The Mirror. “Humour is the binding thing in our life. I think that’s what brought us together.”
He admitted that the age gap isn’t an issue for them, though it is something that is often raised, given the 30 years between them.
The writer added; “I don’t care what people think, Stephen is the love of my life, the light of my life.”
Earlier this year, Fry opened up about what the reality of being in a committed relationship with someone so much younger is really like.
He appeared on Rylan Clark’s How to Be in Love podcast in June and opened up about his 15-year stretch of celibacy and how his marriage to Spencer has kept him young at heart.
“He teaches me things I just didn’t know,” Fry said of his husband. “He introduced me to Kendrick Lamar, which was a great thing to do because Kendrick Lamar I’ve decided is a great poetical spirit, a really remarkable figure.”
Fry and Spencer pictured together in 2019 (Keith Mayhew/SOPA Images/LightRocket via Getty Images)
Fry then revealed the secrets behind his and Spencer’s ‘successful relationship’ – remaining ‘cheerful’ and being mindful of each other’s moods.
He went on: “I guess it’s all the normal human virtues – some of which are forgotten virtues – but one of the most important human virtues, I think, isn’t even really considered a virtue.
“But it is one that changes the world. And it’s not kindness, which obviously is important, but it’s a subset of kindness, perhaps. And it’s cheerfulness.
“When you’re in the presence of a cheerful person, It makes everything better. They’re like their own sunshine. So that’s one of the things. If one is down to help the other come up…
“And understand each other’s differences as emotional human beings. For example, I had to understand, and he had to understand, that I am extremely energetic and bouncy and chatty in the mornings at breakfast and he is not.
“So I had to find ways of just calming myself and he had to come up a little bit and not be quite so kind of, ‘Will you shut up Stephen!'”
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