They Were Best Friends for Over a Decade—Then One Shocking Moment Changed Everything
I had a friend who came into my queer house and called my queer friend a f****t and p***y for not drinking and was just generally bullying people ALL night. I haven’t talked to him since and don’t plan to. To be fair he had been on my nerves for a while beforehand with other little incidents of selfishness and a**holery for like a couple years before this. That was just the nail in the coffin.
1. He became a n**i peace of poop. I immediately broke contact after he started talking s**t about black people.
2. He said “he doesn’t need friends” after I’ve turned him down because I was in a relationship. He contacted me a couple of times later just to ask if I’m in a relationship still. D****e.
3. We were friends, hanged one evening at his place, all good.. next day he calls me and says “I really regret I didn’t have s*x with you yesterday”. Had no idea where that came from. I broke contact because he basically revealed all he actually wanted.
I worked in a restaurant with my best friend (I will call her E) and she was engaged to her boyfriend of 5+ years. We met this guy at work (I will call him H) and E would not stop talking about how much H was into me. E invited H to MY house to ‘set us up’ and play match maker. E kept pressuring me to have s*x with H and I was obviously not going to do that since neither of us knew him too well and So I went to bed. E ended up having s*x with H in my backyard and everyone heard it. When I called her out, E tried to tell me that H r***d her and threatened to spread horrible rumors about me if I told her fiancé. I didn’t tell her fiancé. I cut her off and she proceeded to still spread the rumors about me. I got her fired and escorted off property by police for threatening me.
When I realized how unhealthy our relationship was. I didn’t have enough experience at the time to pick up in the fact that she expected me to pay attention to her to the same extent a romantic partner might (not the same behavior per se but the same level of communication, support, etc.). I also didn’t realize how controlling she was (I’d get accused of not texting enough, not responding to every point brought up in paragraphs of text, not complimenting things right, etc.). Things had been cooling between us (I was actually forming healthy relationships with friends and a new partner) and I ended up explicitly cutting ties with her when I told her I was hurt and all she could do was respond “sorry but here’s what I think you did wrong” (paraphrasing but 1 paragraph of apology and 2 paragraphs of outlining my apparent misdeeds painted a pretty clear picture).
We had been the best friends for over 15 years, did everything together. She had been pulling stunts for a while but I always forgave her cause she had it rough with her parents during our teen years. In our mid-20s, a friend we knew our whole childhood died suddenly, he was more like a big brother to me and was my brothers best friend. It shocked my whole family that she was quite close to, was an extremely hard time as he died so young.
The funeral came and went and she never turned up, texted, nothing. A week later I got a text saying ‘phone died, soooo upset about last week, hows you?’. I just couldn’t respond and explain how s****y everything about that text was so I didn’t reply. It became clearer that I had made the right decision of cutting her off when my parents and brother ended up in the hospital the few months after the funeral for a series of crazy incidents all unrelated to each other. New and old friends came out of nowhere to help me but she never turned up for any of my family.
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