They Were Best Friends for Over a Decade—Then One Shocking Moment Changed Everything
Its been 6 years and honestly the best decision I have ever made for myself.
I was out at a bar with some friends. A guy shows up at the bar that makes one of my friends, let’s call her Anne, uncomfortable. There’s bad history between the guy and Anne that really isn’t my business to share, but she had recently filed a police report against him. When Anne sees him, she is clearly upset and hides in the bathroom. One of my other friends talks to the bouncer and gets the guy kicked out. Now here’s the s****y part. One of our other friends, Sarah, starts loudly telling the table how much Anne was over reacting and that it was unfair that the guy got kicked out. I was appalled (and drunk) and walked away from the situation. The next day I texted Sarah and told her that I really wasn’t ok with what she had said and tried to explain how problematic it was. She refused to apologize, continued to victim blame, and then once we all stopped talking to her, she texted Anne and blamed her for “ruining her year”. Blocked and deleted her info.
Ahhh yes. When my then best mate tried to guilt me back into the d***s. I did my best to get him out but all he wanted to do was chase. 15 years of friendship gone. I got clean, got a career and got a family. As far as I know he has never stayed clean, has a kid he doesn’t see and still works bars.
This one needs a little backstory… I was in boy scouts from age 6 to 13, and was a leaderboard popcorn scamm- “salesman,” and adored summer camp and hanging out with my troop and stuff, so I of course built up a sense of security around them.
It was about this time that I was figuring out who I was, what I wanted to do, and most importantly how I think. I wasn’t necessarily christian, but I prayed with them anyway, and did their bible study thing for a badge. I didn’t really understand any of it, but I participated because my friends would.
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