“Uncover the Shocking Truth: 42 Everyday Beliefs That Might Just Be Total Myths!”
When I wanted to hang out with my friends, I just had them come over when she was at work since she was usually there past midnight. Or I just said I was going for a walk and went to see them myself. I got my own bank account by waiting for her to leave for work and then going to the bank by myself. When I was finally ballsy enough and had saved enough money to move out, she would get angry at me talking about looking for a place. “If you’re so unhappy here why don’t you just go live under a bridge. Go live in the street! You hate me that badly then hide in the woods with the rats.” When I’d never said anything hateful, it was just stuff like “oh I saw this apartment listed and it’s only $650 a month.” She also would tell me I don’t know how to live on my own, that living away from home is harder than I think, I won’t make it with our her, ect. Eventually I was just pissed about it and ordered a bed and mattress online and had them shipped to my best friend’s house. Told her I got a new bed set, told her where it got sent to, and gave her a date as to when I’d start taking my stuff over. She was livid and also started sobbing. But I was only on the other side of town so its not like I left the state.
I’ve since gotten married and have been living with my husband for the past 7 years. She isn’t as dramatic anymore, but for some reason she still has it in her head that I’m an idiot. She thinks my husband and I don’t pay our own bills for some reason even though she has seen the checkbook and pile of mail on the desk when she visits us. She thinks his mom pays our expenses. If we talk about wanting to find someplace closer to where he works, she gets pissy again saying “you two don’t realize how hard living on your own is. You two don’t even pay for everything yourselves, it’s expensive!” Meanwhile he makes more than she does. “He’s never had to take care of himself.” He went to a real college and had an apartment of his own near it, he has taken care of himself more than I was allowed to.
