“Unlock the Secrets: 71 Profound Lessons from Therapists That Transformed Lives Forever”
For me, it was a time I was talking about how self-conscious I was when dating and what that other person thought of me. She told me “You’re so focused on whether that person would like you, that you don’t even realize if you even like them back”.
“Of course you’re anxious. You’re an introvert, and a natural leader. They’re not mutually exclusive.”
Effing nailed the root of my problem. I’d worked so long in sales learning to be chatty I forgot how much I like being alone.
I was telling my psychiatrist about my worries and fears that kept me up at night for the past several years.
Psych :
When did these thoughts begin?
Me:
“Probably for the past 15 years”
Psych:
“And in 15 years of sleepless nights, how many of these things have actually occurred and you had to take care of them?”
Me: “Not a single one”
Psych: “Then why not wait to deal with it when it actually happens?”
The simplicity of that statement was almost childish, but it really made me realize that I was worrying for no reason and I was able to stop that behavior.
*You seem to view all your parenting decisions as needing to be a 100% success. It’s okay to make decisions that turn out to be 80% success or 90% success.*
This actually helped me a lot as I was paralyzed with indecision and anxiety any time I had to make a decision that would moderately or significantly impact my kids.
