“Unlock the Secrets: 71 Profound Lessons from Therapists That Transformed Lives Forever”
My therapist accidentally word for word said my definition of love to me without realizing it when pressed for time at the end of a session and trying to explain how to love myself properly. honestly changed my life. made me realize that i wasnt caring for myself as much as I would even a stranger.
When I get overwhelmed I get this lump in my throat that feels like it makes me physically unable to speak. I started to get that feeling, and my therapist goes “what’s this? What do you feel here?” And pointed to the bottom of her throat where I have that physical feeling. And it was mind blowing that someone could just see it and understand what I was feeling without me having to say anything. It’s always been so hard to explain my whole life.
I’d been struggling with depression and got referred to a psychiatrist, who didn’t really help, all he sort of discovered was a mild fear of flying. After about 6 months, I stopped going. A few months later, still down quite a bit, I went to a councilor – she nailed it in 10 minutes.
She said – You blame your mother for your parents splitting up.
I nearly fell over when I realized she was right.
Paraphrasing as I can’t remember the exact wording so much as the fact that I was surprised to see her crying after I finished telling her why I was there: “You just sound so defeated, like you’ve given up.” I was in high school.
Fun fact: I don’t remember the incident itself, but I do remember this happening on one other occasion with a different therapist and thinking “I can’t believe this has happened to me twice now.” (this = witnessing a therapist/counselor crying while I’m awkwardly sitting in their office)
