Someone made a mess in the men’s room and I was tasked to clean it up. As I’m doing that one of the patrons looks at me and says “you know if you’d have gone to school you could be doing better than this”. “Yeah I did go to school, and I have a great job in a related field, and I’m here paying off my debt in advance. But I’ll remember that hot tip, thanks”.

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Gabriela says you can also question a condescending individual about their behavior or use statements such as the following: “So what I am hearing is ______, did I understand that? Let me take a moment to rephrase what you said because I don’t believe you intended to talk down to me. Did you realize that what you said hurt?”

“It is important to always remind yourself that it is not about you, and if you can try to have some empathy for these individuals, it can help redirect your own thoughts and prevent you from feeling any less than others,” the counselor says.

#16

I bartend so I get a lot of that s**t. It used to annoy me because it was always unsolicited. I understand it though especially from people who have never been a bartender before so they don’t understand how much money you can make.

One time though I actually had to laugh at that guy. He was a regular and came in for lunch with his employees atleast twice a week. Friendly bunch and always tipped well. We started talking about the kind of work they did and what not. They had a small company that did residential electrical work. Said that I should come by and drop a resume off if I ever wanted to get a “real” job. I entertained him and asked about pay, hours, benefits etc. he then told me I could start out at $11 an hour and with in a year or two be up to $14 an hour. Which isn’t terrible. But it was the way he said it that pissed me off.

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