“Unseen Judgment: 43 Shocking Tales of Moms Facing Strangers’ Wrath”
Literally everything. From his outfit to his physical size. Like he’s tall. He’s 2.
The hardest one was about letting him feed himself, instead of feeding him myself after he hit 5mo. With doctor suggestion.
Just recently, I took my son out to Kemah, he just turned 4. He is taller than average, so maybeeee there was some confusion… BUT- he has just started amping up on potty training. It was just me and him there, lots of people. I took him into the woman’s restroom nearby because there was no family section close, and he needed to go immediately. Once we came out of the stall, this mom who was helping her daughter wash her hands next to us (doing the same) was giving me a dirty look… she just kept looking at me, then my son, then back at me like I’m doing something incredibly horrible by taking my child to the potty.
What am I supposed to do?
It’s not like I can just send him in alone to the crowded adult men’s room and ask some stranger to help assist with getting him on the toilet. 🙄🤦♀️.
I used to work with this lovely woman, super kind and well-meaning. I was pregnant with my first and all I craved was watermelon so bad that cucumber smelled like it. I’d eat whole cukes, salting a little bit per bite. She observed me consume one with my salt shaker in the other hand.
Afterwards, she came up to me with her sweet kindly smile and whispered lovingly to me, “Obey the cravings, hon, but watch your salt intake.” She then punctuated her statement with a stern-faced motherly nod.
Little did she know that I had been “prescribed” salt by my doctor due to ridiculously low BP (for example, first thing in the morning, before I have anything to eat or drink, it can be as low as 80s over 50s).
People who knee-jerk mom-shame people don’t know enough to say c**p about anything. Let it roll off like water on a duck’s back. They’re the ones making an a*s of themselves, not out of you.
I got pregnant shamed one time. We were at a funeral and another mom that goes to our sitter was pregnant also. And mind you she is tiny and I’m average. Both of us were Uber pregnant and her husband asked if I was ready to have my baby and I was like yea I’m exhausted. He said yea you’re looking a little swollen. Needless to say his wife heard him and he got it the whole was home and the next morning from her!!
Some lady was appalled that my 11 month old early walker had only socks and no shoes at the park and was roaming about shoeless.
“Where are her shoes?!”
I told her that my baby just started walking and that she can’t walk in shoes yet (she legitimately would just faceplant with shoes on).
This lady gave me such a look and then took her toddler and left the park!
To this day I have no idea why this upset her so.
When my son was little he cried a lot, I was breastfeeding so my MIL said “maybe he’s crying so much cause your breast milk isn’t good enough” she wanted me to formula feed…
Almost everything! for caring to much for my baby! I once was about to leave my parents house to go back home. then changed my mind because the baby was hungry and i said i’d feed her first my sister said “you are just being over the top” for wanting to feed my baby?
i forgot once to get extra clothes and was mom-shamed for it. i was pregant with my second and my first one threw up in her bed, my mom who came to help suggested she will pick her up kept shaming me for not knowing she vomitted!! staid the whole day making me feel like a bad mom. so many other stories. and sadly the mom-shaming always come from mothers. not once from my childless friends.
My grandma gets so mad at me when i let my 4 year old pick out her own outfits, she goes “well why is she wearing that you could’ve put a nice outfit on her” like she’s 4 and if she wants to pick out her own clothes she’s going to be allowed to do that. or when i leave my daughters hair down instead of putting it up she’ll immediately take her to the bathroom and do it even if i tell her she didn’t want it done she wanted it down she doesn’t care she wants my daughter to look like a babydoll 24/7 and it’s just not going to happen and she constantly makes me feel like i can’t do it right.
I am from Latin America and get a lot of “why are your daughter’s ears not pierced?” when I visit home. Until she was 6 months it was followed “you can’t even tell she is a girl”. Her hair has always been long since birth, so from 6 months onwards the need for bows/hairdo’s to prevent her hair from falling on her eyes have at least stopped the second (extremely sexist) portion of the question. She still gets pity looks though like “poor thing, she doesn’t have holes in her ears”.
My now toddler has hip dysplasia and was in a full body harness for several months as a newborn/infant. The number of “concerned” people that approached me out of the blue asking if I had dropped her or if she had been shaken was astounding.
At my daughter’s first swimming lesson, I was mom shamed by another mom because my 2yo daughter threw a tantrum after I forced her to take a shower after leaving the pool (you can read all about it on my post). I felt awful. But now I know she was just an a*****e.
That lady was also an a*****e. You daughter used her diaper while you were shopping. So what?
