“Unseen Judgment: 43 Shocking Tales of Moms Facing Strangers’ Wrath”
My kid had the most severe dairy allergy his pediatrician office had seen. We switched to soy. Other non-dairy & non-soy formula did not work, he was vomiting actual fountains. Soy is the ONLY thing he kept down and he wasn’t allergic to.
I got shamed non stop for feeding my baby toxins and poison. I was told to breastfeed, but I couldn’t breastfeed, I had a miniscule supply, like 2oz a day from BOTH breasts after 6 weeks of trying to up it and extra pumping myself into a mental breakdown.
I got told to make my own, sorry but I’m not a f*****g nutritionist, I’m not doing that.
I got told I need to get goats milk, well that is also dairy.
I kept getting told soy is “not normal”. Okay Brenda, how much f*****g blood is normal for a baby to s**t??? Because dairy makes my baby s**t blood.
I was recently afforded the opportunity to go to a grocery store alone and during checkout a very young toddler (maybe 20mos?) was crying very loudly and was terribly upset a few registers over. The Complaint behind me were tisking loudly and talking about being unable to control a child. I said (to no one in particular) “poor baby, he must be getting teeth or just wants a hug from mom”.
Ffs, my 23mo wails at home if I don’t show her my belly button while I’m trying to have a p*o.
My baby was crying in the grocery store one day, and a lovely older woman said out loud to nobody “sounds like somebody needs to be taken home”. It wasn’t in a concerned or empathetic way. She was clearly bothered by the crying, which I was doing my best to not be overstimulated by after a bad day.
I said right to her face “yes, as soon as I buy the formula she’s crying for you f*****g a*****e, I am NOT HERE BECAUSE IM HAVING A GOOD TIME”…
She apologised, I ran off to pay and we both cried in the car on the way home 🤣
It was always boomers who seemed to forget how it is when you’re knee deep in literal baby poop.
We had my best friend over for breakfast at our house one morning. She literally gasped and jokingly yelled my full name when she saw me add some sprinkles to my daughter’s yogurt to get her to eat it. For context, she will never have kids.
My daughter loves to carry her shoes but not wear them. She walks but only at home and she’s still gaining confidence. I say this because she’s not walking around stores barefoot. I’ve had a dozen or so people tell me my poor baby needs shoes on to protect her feet or why is she holding them instead of wearing them. While she’s in the buggy no where near the floor. I usually say something to the effect of “alright YOU try to get them on her”. Usually people look offended and walk off.
I literally got Mom shamed for making my first her own special birthday cake that was nicely decorated for her first birthday and a separate cake for everyone else. People are ruthless. You gotta water off a duck this kind of stuff.
Still breastfeeding at 20 months by a close friend and some family. Not outward shaming but definitely judgmental comments and implying that I am too attached / doing something bad for her. Makes me cry even writing this. Ppl are the worst!
I went to the grocery store an hour ago. I forgot to get green beans for my baby’s purees. I wanted to make her chicken and green beans, but I’m infamous for forgetting important things. I forgot to get formula too.
Right before going, my daughter had a 6 0z bottle, which is what she should be eating for her age, but I had a feeling she was still hungry. So I fed her an entire sweet corn puree I made yesterday. And then I gave her 2 Oz of water. So she had quite a bit.
I changed her diaper before leaving and went to smiths.
While checking out, this old lady judgementally asks me “when is the last time you changed her diaper, it’s full!”. I’m not confrontational, so I just casually replied that I’d changed it 30 mins prior. She just stared at me doubtfully and then commented that it’s too hot outside to be having a small baby out.
I don’t want to be too specific, but my daughter is close to one year of age. And also, how am i supposed to grocery shop without her? Just leave her at home alone? The rest of my household was at work.
I get that she should be changed as soon as possible, my baby has only ever had one diaper rash so I’m not lazy (not that you are if you have troubles with this; every baby is different), but it was literally a 30 min grocery run.
I don’t know. Maybe I’m taking it too personally. It just annoys me that her dad never gets comments like that, meanwhile I’ve had a few (of varying topics) throughout the months.
