34 Shocking Confessions from Adults Who Uncovered Their Parents’ Darkest Secrets
Authoritative parents, however, focus on the best aspects of the other styles. They strive to create a balance between rules and support. These parents set and enforce boundaries but also consider what their children think and how they feel about certain situations. What’s more, they explain why it’s necessary to have certain rules: there’s an emphasis on constant, clear communication.
As a result, kids raised in authoritative (rather than authoritarian) households are more likely to grow into responsible, happy, successful adults, who feel fine expressing their opinions and thinking for themselves.
Buy ramen instead of nutritious food so that they could afford more cigarettes. Mercilessly mock our insecurities and then say they were “just joking” and that we needed to “toughen up” when we got upset. Refuse to apply for Medicaid or foodstamps because they weren’t “trashy” and let me and my sister go sick/hungry for their pride. (This one makes me extra angry because as an adult now I know they qualified and also my maternal grandparents were well off and could have helped but my mother would rather starve than accept their scrutiny)
I’ve always known I asked my mom if she was proud of me. She said I hadn’t done anything for her to be proud of. I was 12.
“I was trying to farm and get to a certain minimum amount of karma, so that I can post on a subreddit. So I wanted to ask something that is relevant to everyone and start a conversation,” u/VastPurpleSky told Bored Panda.
According to the OP, the biggest red parenting flag is the neglect of the children’s welfare. The redditor shared their thoughts on parenting extremes in Asia, too. According to them, authoritarian parents “expect their child to be the top student in school so that they have better prospects in the future” and also compare their children to other kids.
“I guess it’s okay to get the best out of the child, some kids can handle it but for those that can’t, the parents have to take a step back and look out for the child’s mental well-being. It’s a huge red flag when the children feel overwhelmed and the parents are completely oblivious or worse ignore it,” the OP said.
Learning at an early age to bottle up emotions and not to show any. No one can hurt you if you don’t feel. Growing up, I was constantly needled about my emotions. I was only child, and at any point I wasn’t acting as they thought I should they’d basically bully and make fun of me until I either broke and cried, to which I’d be disciplined, or just go numb. Now as a adult I’m my mid thirties, I’m emotionally stunted and have a difficult time connecting with anyone emotionally.
My mom raised me to believe that what other people think of me is more important than than what I think of myself. Every action had to be accompanied by a thought of how it would affect the family (i.e. her). So of course I became depressed because I don’t want people seeing me doing something “wrong”. Even this response has been rewritten a couple times because I can’t stop myself. She’s recently complained about how I never talk to them and I’m pretty sure this is gonna be unloaded this weekend.
They didn’t allow me to go out with my friends at all. I was basically grounded by default. My weekend schedule was jam-packed with various lessons. As a result, I took longer to develop social skills.
“Neglect would cause the child to go astray when they become a teenager, so they might join a gang, purposely get low grades, or create trouble in school to gain the attention of their parents. Personally, I feel that neglect is worse than authoritarian parenting as there’s no display of love and lack of attention where the child needs it most.”
Meanwhile, redditor u/VastPurpleSky shared their thoughts on what they think are some signs of a great parent. “To me, it’s the intention for the child that counts, and the awareness of the child’s limitations, not pushing them to meet the expectations of the parents or society. And, of course, love and support from the parents instill confidence in the child,” they told Bored Panda.
“Sometimes, kids can be lazy and unwilling to push themselves to become their best version and tend to give up easily, hence the parents are there to help them realize their true potential. [They] push them further to help their children become their best selves.”
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