50 Unexpected Truths Women Raised Without Men Reveal About Life With Guys
Niobe Way, PhD, a developmental psychology professor at New York University, has studied boys’ emotional development for decades. Her research shows that boys do not naturally want to keep their distance. In fact, many boys want close connections, but cultural expectations can make them hide this need or see emotional openness as a weakness.
I’m a guy, my wife grew up with two younger sisters and I was the first man she ever moved in with.
She’s said the toughest thing to get used to was how comfortable men are being quiet. If my brother comes over, we can just watch football and not say a word. Same thing with my dad. She thinks this is crazy.
Meanwhile anytime I hang out with my wife’s family I’m always *amazed* at how much talking and interacting happens. There’s almost never any silence of any kind. They’re wonderful people and I love them dearly, but the yapping is enough to make me need some STIFF whiskey.
Grew up in a woman-only family. Thought men’d be way more stubborn about favors in the house than they are. From the sitcoms I thought if I asked a guy to get me a glass of water he’d bite my head off for being a nag! Turns out they do it on autopilot. Can you reach this for me? No prob! Do you know why the toilet isn’t flushing? I’ll get it!
Casual requests mean nothing to men when figuring out whose responsibility fixing the garage light in my all girl family was a political campaign with actual factions. And if you thank the guys nicely for doing what you asked they preen like peacocks. Seriously, genuine thanks makes them light up like Christmas trees. And you praise them for doing a good job? Men love that so much!! So much easier than I thought. Like yeah men are stinky and gross compared to women and they do NOT know how to decorate the house, but theyre basically like slightly more capable big dogs that if you keep their needs met just want to watch tv and cuddle. 8/10 would recommend.
How they apparently “don’t notice” when something needs to be cleaned or done.
Like I cannot comprehend how you don’t notice the floor needing to be swept, or the stove is dirty after cooking, or the counter needing cleaning, or the dishwasher needing to be ran because it’s FULL.
Genuinely can’t tell if it’s weaponized incompetence or if they just walk around with blinders on and really just don’t notice messes?? idk.
Edit: so this is based of my personal experience, per the question posed in the thread. My ex had two dude roommates before I moved in with him and they were all like this. My husband is also like this.
Now admittedly I am not a perfectly neat and tidy person, either. Our house is cluttered and messy (two animals, toddler, my ADHD) BUT there is a big difference to me between something being a bit messy and being visibly *dirty*.
Like, a few crumbs in the floor is whatever. But when the pet hair starts piling up and there is noticable dirt and debris on the floor, it’s time to sweep. If there are rings in the toilet bowl, time to scrub it. If there are hair trimmings on the bathroom counter after you shave, wipe them up. The stove does need to be cleaned every time because otherwise splatter just gets more and more caked on and harder to clean and it’s just gross.
The issue I have is that none of these things got done without me pointing it out or doing it myself.
And I totally get this isn’t gender specific and there are plenty of women out there who are total slobs. I do feel like the scale is tilted though. And again, this is just based of my personal experience and stories shared from other women I know.
Sorry to all the bros in the comments having to deal with this from your ladies, I feel ya.
When someone comes home, drops their keys, and spends half an hour in silence, that quiet time can be helpful. They might just need a break to leave work behind before starting the rest of their evening. A short stretch without questions or decisions helps create a clear line between work and home.
My wife only had her sister and admitted that she always thought that boys were simply flawed girls.
When we had our son, she was completely surprised with how snuggly he was and how sweet he was with her. Bringing her flowers on walks and stuff like that.
She was genuinely surprised and it made her realize that a lot of boys (and men… cough) may want to be both a little rough and tumble, but still warm and snuggly and actually *need* and *want* that from other people and especially from their mothers.
She actually sort of realized that a lot of men who lash out are probably doing so because they don’t get that gentle love at home, only the “hard love.”
Rhythm Superfoods Kale Chips, Zesty Nacho, Organic and Non-GMO, 2.0 Oz (Pack of 4), Vegan/Gluten-Free Superfood Snacks
(as of October 7, 2026 00:56 GMT +00:00 - More infoProduct prices and availability are accurate as of the date/time indicated and are subject to change. Any price and availability information displayed on [relevant Amazon Site(s), as applicable] at the time of purchase will apply to the purchase of this product.)
Supa Ant 6x8ft. Welding Blanket Fireproof (Pack of 2) - Heavy Duty Weld Fire Blanket Tools - Welders Cover for Men Curtain with Gloves - Large Welding Gear for Welder Accessories
(as of October 7, 2026 00:56 GMT +00:00 - More infoProduct prices and availability are accurate as of the date/time indicated and are subject to change. Any price and availability information displayed on [relevant Amazon Site(s), as applicable] at the time of purchase will apply to the purchase of this product.)
Skater Trainer Wheels - Beginners get Skateboard Tricks Fast, Safe and Fun | Viral accessory gift - Helps beginners stay excited about their new skateboard - Kids & parents love these
$28.99 (as of October 7, 2026 00:56 GMT +00:00 - More infoProduct prices and availability are accurate as of the date/time indicated and are subject to change. Any price and availability information displayed on [relevant Amazon Site(s), as applicable] at the time of purchase will apply to the purchase of this product.)
PROMIXX FORM Sports Water Bottle - Premium BPA Free Water Bottle for Fitness Sports & Outdoors - Sustainable Drinks Bottle with Measurement Markers and Leakproof Lid - 760ml / 26oz (Midnight Blue)
$17.79 (as of October 7, 2026 00:56 GMT +00:00 - More infoProduct prices and availability are accurate as of the date/time indicated and are subject to change. Any price and availability information displayed on [relevant Amazon Site(s), as applicable] at the time of purchase will apply to the purchase of this product.)
Post Comment