Inside The Boldest Moments Men Cross Boundaries In Women’s Lives—You Won’t Believe Number 47!

Yet, ask some men to do a load of washing and all you get is blank stares, or white shirts turned pink. Call it laziness, weaponized incompetence, entitlement, or being a few cards short of a deck, these guys are the ones who expect women to do the bulk of the heavy lifting.

Psychology Today defines weaponized incompetence as “strategically avoiding responsibility—by pretending to be incapable or inept at a task so that someone else helps, takes over, or stops delegating tasks to them.”

In this way, adds the site, the imbalance becomes entrenched over time. And quite frankly, we’re over it.

In the heart of rural Kenya lies a village called Umoja. It’s entirely run by women, and no men are allowed. Umoja was founded in 1990 by Rebecca Lolosoli, after she was thrown out of her community and beaten by a group of men for speaking out against the mutilation of females.

“I don’t want to ever leave this supportive community of women. We don’t have much, but in Umoja I have everything I need,” one resident, known only as Mary, told Salam Lab. Mary sought refuge in Umoja after being sold to an 80 year old man in exchange for a herd of cows, at the age of 16.

“In Al Samaha, the government provides women with plots of land and furnished houses. Residents are able to pay off the costs of housing due to the profit made from agriculture, tending cattle and selling handicrafts,” reports Salam Lab. 

Today, Al Samaha is also a refuge for women who have survived domestic violence.