Behind the Mask of Kindness: 28 Shocking Tales of Manipulation by So-Called "Nice Guys"
Ever had one of those moments where a “nice guy” just can’t take a hint — no matter how creatively you try to dodge? Picture this: you’re out on a peaceful 100-mile solo bike ride, headphones in, living your best quiet life, when suddenly—bam!—a well-meaning (but oh-so-misguided) stranger decides you’re hopelessly lost and insists on “saving” you. Spoiler alert: you weren’t lost. But his relentless insistence on being your unsolicited escort for miles? Yeah, that’s a classic case of the “Nice Guy” act — kindness that actually masks a bizarre sense of entitlement. What is it with “nice guys” who think a little help is a down payment for attention, affection, or, let’s be honest, way more? Dive into 28 cringe-worthy tales that expose the awkward, the creepy, and the downright manipulative side of so-called “nice guys.” You might just see why sometimes, saying no is the kindest thing you can do. LEARN MORE
I had one of the “but I’m just trying to helllllp-” flavored nice guys cling to me for dozens of miles once.
My favorite hobby is bike touring. I pick a place around 100 miles away, wake up real early, jam on music and podcasts all day, and don’t have to talk to anybody. It is the best.
40 miles into one ride, I pulled over to look at the map on my phone, and this dude decided that me glancing at my map meant I was hopelessly lost and couldn’t possibly continue on my route unless he rescued me. He (and his friend who didn’t really say much) became my personal [working woman]. I did all the nonconfrontational go-away things I could think of–leaving my headphones in and going “what” in an unfriendly way when he kept trying to mansplain bikes to me, lagging way behind him or surging way ahead of him, etc, but he never caught on. He was always there, demanding my attention and giving nothing in return.
Finally I waited for him and his friend to get around a bend, and took like a 20 minute sandwich and stretch break. Surely this would shake them off.
Nope! Dude was lurking there, looking relieved that he’d found me. Finally I just had to be like, “No offense, but I really like doing these rides by myself. I’ve got an audiobook I’d like to listen to, and I don’t need your help right now.”
“But you were lost!”
“No I wasn’t. I was looking at the map on my GPS-enabled phone. I told you you found me 40 miles away from my apartment–how do you think I managed to get this far without you? I do rides like this all the time on my own. I’m fine.”
And at that point he muttered something about how I was “real NICE” and biked away. I care less and less about how nice strange men think I am with every passing day.
My friend was upset because she had a fight with her boyfriend. His best friend decided to comfort her, he listened, gave her a shoulder to cry on.
The next day he tried to force s*x from her. He said she owed him for looking after her. He had to listen to her c**p so she needed to please him. Luckily one of us came over to notice him trying to force his way onto her.
Guy I’d hung out with a few times offered to come feed my cat for the weekend I was away. We agreed on how much I’d pay him. When I got home I saw that he left the money on the counter.
I texted to thank him and ask when I can pick up my key. He basically demanded s*x since he hadn’t taken the money and he wanted s*x instead. I said I’m not a w**** and he should have just taken the $20 as agreed. Then he refused to give back my key and said he would sell it on Craigslist with my address and photos of me.
I informed him that I’d screenshot the conversation and sent it to several friends and if anything happened to me they would show the convo to the police and that I didn’t think a little dancer boy would fair well in prison. He then said that threatening to have me r*ped was just a joke.
When someone rejects them or tells them a polite “no,” they tend to show their true colors. They might lash out, opt for emotional blackmail, and generally behave immaturely. For them, relationships are only as valuable as what they can get from them. In other words, they don’t see relationships as being valuable in and of themselves.
He wanted to impress upon me what a good guy he was, and he was also too scared to ask me out like a normal person. He k*lled two birds with one stone by having his “split personality” tell me it really wanted to k*ll me, but Nice Guy was bravely holding it back because he liked me so much. Obviously I fell head over heels immediately.
I used to get public transport home from university each day. Made friends with a guy who shared most of my classes and it turned out he lived quite near me. One lecture finished late and he offered to drive me home so I didn’t have to get public transport alone at night. I thanked him profusely, as I really didn’t feel safe alone at night. All went well. Couple days later I was leaving uni and he offered again, I told him he didn’t need to, but he waved it off and said he was happy to. Over the next semester he made a habit of offering to drop me home whenever we ended the day with a class together. When I tried to offer to pay for petrol or pay for his lunch as a thank you, he would just reiterate that he really didn’t mind and he was happy to do it.
One day when he’s driving me home he seems to be in a really bad mood. Gripping the steering wheel really tightly and only replying with single monosyllabic words. When we get to my house i ask if he’s ok. He doesn’t reply so i go to get out of the car, then he angrily says “are you EVER going to invite me inside!?” I must have said something like “huh, what?” Coz he then yells “I’ve been giving you free rides for MONTHS and you’ve never invited me in afterwards! Are we EVER going to have s*x??”
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